Wedding Planning

  • Wedding Planners + Venue Coordinators

    Like the shot heard ’round the world:

    “I don’t need a wedding planner; my venue has a coordinator!”

    Instead of being worried about losing a sale, we’re more concerned for this couple and their expectations.

    Misinformation is the leading cause of unrealistic expectations (so is Pinterest!) and we’d love to help educate and shed light on this interesting topic.

    Most of the time, venues will have a coordinator. And they are more than capable of managing your wedding day timeline if that’s truly all you need. However, they are almost never responsible for any of the planning that happens before your wedding day.

    Questions about the fine print at the bottom of your entertainers contract? Not sure how to word the invitation when both spouses are retired military? Speaking honestly here, your venue coordinator just doesn’t have time to answer those questions. At least not when you need them answered. During the week, they’re busy showing off their beautiful grounds to couples just like you. And on the weekends, they’re probably juggling 2-4 events and making sure the banquet staff are ready to serve dinner on time. And due to high turnover, the coordinator on the day of your wedding may not be the person you originally met with when touring the facilities.

    If you decide to utilize your venue coordinator, make sure you are asking them the right questions and finding out what exactly their responsibilities are leading up to the wedding and on the big day. With that information, you are in a better position to decide if you really will need additional assistance and it will also help manage your expectations for them on your wedding day.

    -More often than not, the venue coordinator is not there to ensure that your outside vendors fulfill their obligations, set up your wedding decor, or manage your wedding day timeline.

    This is in no way an attack on venue managers or coordinators. We LOVE working with them to help make the day go smoother. On the contrary; we often hear about them getting bad reputations because they didn’t fulfill duties that were in no way theirs to begin with!

    So many venues are starting to require couples hire at least a day-of coordinator (check out my post on that here). They recognize that it takes teamwork to make your dream work! They’re able to focus on the things they need to while handing off the tough stuff to us. This process makes your day run like a well oiled machine. Because their main responsibility is to protect the venue and make sure that everything that they provide is in working order, and available to you and your guests. But when it comes to making sure the baker places your florists flowers exactly how you want on your wedding cake? That’s all me!

    Most people don’t think that hiring a planner or coordinator is within their budget. We know that it is a significant investment, but assure all of our couples that we are able to save them time, money, and a lot of stress. If you want to hear about how we could help plan your wedding day, please contact us today!

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  • Say Yes to the Best!

    We’ve teamed up with Billie of Best Day Ever Weddings and Jasmine of Let It Be Lovely Events to bring you a video addressing major concerns and questions we’ve had from clients and those affected by this crisis. 

    Huge thanks to John of PGP Weddings for hosting us on his show Say Yes to the Best

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    Link to our Ask Us Anything Form

    Here is a list of some of the common questions we’ve been asked that we address in our video (and a timestamp of where to find the answer!):

    • Should I postpone or cancel my wedding? (2:33)
    • My wedding is scheduled for May, June, July 2020 in NJ.  Should I postpone? (6:01)
    • My destination wedding is scheduled for May, June, July 2020.  Should I postpone? (7:55)
    • What is the process I should go through in order to postpone my wedding? (9:43)
    • Now that I’ve decided to postpone my wedding, I’ve learned that one or more of my vendors aren’t available on my new wedding date.  What do I do? (12:23)
    • How should I notify my guests that my wedding has been postponed? (14:18)
    • How should I handle the payments that would be due to my vendors based on my original date seeing my new wedding is months later? (15:33)
    • Is there a way that I can still get married on my original wedding date? (17:21)
    • Now that my wedding date has moved out several months or more and my planning is essentially done, what should I do with the time between now and then? (18:50)
    • My wedding is scheduled for 2021 and I’ve not started planning.  What should I do? (20:40)

    BONUS: Why hire a wedding planner now? (23:27)

     

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  • Top Date Ideas for Quarantined Couples

    Now, more than ever, is a time to take every win we can. Every silver lining. Every small blessing.

    One of the best things I’ve experienced through all of this is the time I’ve gained with my husband. And, of course, our ridiculous dog.

    I’ve been working from home for some time. He, on the other hand, just started. So it’s been fun to help him acclimate to a homebound work schedule. Does that mean I need to remind him to actually go upstairs and work and stop bugging me? DAILY. But that also means we get to finally have lunch together. And if we both finish up early for the day, we get to come up with fun new things to do together to help keep our minds off of this crazy situation we’ve found ourselves in. 

    Here are our top date ideas for quarantined couples:

    -locals, there’s a special treat for you towards the bottom!
    • We’ll get this one out of the way real quick because there’s only so much Netflix and Chill we can all agree on. But, the couple that binges together, stays together. If you haven’t already been witness to the Tiger King train-wreck, do yourself a favor. Just hop on. Then you’ll both finally get to appreciate all of the glorious memes floating around social media right now. What a time to be alive…
    • Have a spa day. Pamper each other. Don’t lie, you love it. 
    • Who doesn’t love a picnic? Put together a quick little pile of snack foods. We know that’s all you bought when you went shopping two weeks ago. Get out in the yard! Take a blanket, some Cheez-Its, maybe even that bottle of wine you’ve been ‘saving’ and take turns practicing bird calls.
    • Give in to the video games. Find one you both can enjoy. Whether you’re destroying together or destroying each other, you’re sharing the experience. And that’s fun, right?
    • Take a yoga class together. If you had a yogi, chances are, they’ve gone virtual to help you out! Follow their Facebook or Instagram for their latest updates. If you didn’t have one before, now is the time! A quick search and we’re sure you’ll find one you both enjoy. 
    • Join a book club. Or create your own! Give each other a list of your all time favorite books and set up a future date to chat about why they mean so much to you. Literary love can be so profound. 
    • Take a virtual tour of a museum you’ve always wanted to go to. A great place to start would be the Smithsonian. The National Museum of Natural History has a super fun virtual tour. USE TECHNOLOGY. 
    • On that note, learn a new subject. Or, better yet, teach each other about a topic you’re passionate about. Get creative with it. Have a presentation. 
    • Speaking of presentations. If you’re anything like us, you LOVE a good dinner party. “But if there’s no party, what’s the point in dressing up the table?” -you may ask. Stop it. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. Dress that table. Light those candles. Why the hell not? (We’d love to see it if you do! Tag us in it and use the hashtag #DWEdinnerparty so we can feature you!)
    • Dying to see the Northern Lights? You can stream that now too. We’re telling you, technology FTW. 
    • This would also be a perfect time to look up to the sky. Less cars, less light pollution, more beautiful stargazing opportunities. 
    • I have two left feet. No amount of classes will ever help that. But that doesn’t mean I don’t have fun trying! Have a dance party in the living room. Jam out to your favorites, slow dance to some oldies, and sing your Sasha Fierce heart out. No judgement. 
    • Get out in the yard and do some much needed landscaping. You know who you are. Plant a flower. Plant a tree. Some nurseries delivery. Check with your local ones and see what they’re doing to help the homebound masses. 

    If you’re missing your Atlantic City fix:

    • Dust off that old Monopoly set and try to take over The Orange Loop.

    • Turn it into a drinking game as if you really ARE at Tennessee Ave Beer Hall. 

    • Plan a Bourré Cajun-inspired dinner and give each other a show.

    • Finish it up with whatever chocolate dessert you have on hand. We know it’s not nearly as good as anything over at MADE. We recommend pretending.

    • “KEEP YOUR SPIRITS UP” by ordering delivery from your favorite distillery! If you’re in the surrounding area, check out Little Water Distillery. They’re offering free delivery with a Quarantine Pack! They’re literally the best. 

    • Go out for karaoke. Just kidding. Please stay in. Especially for karaoke. There are a ton of free apps. Yay technology! Yay drunk living room karaoke! You can even dress up as your faves!

    • And if your arm is aching with the need to throw an axe, we are not telling you to pretend like Westecunk Axe Throwing is in your backyard. First of all, that might not be your fence. What we are telling you to do is pretend like pillows are axes. Preferably inside the house. See where that takes you. 
    Let us know in the comments below how you're getting creative with dating!

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  • We’re Here For You

    The Covid-19 pandemic is on every news channel, across all of your social media feeds, and is completely ruining the vision you had for the best day of your life. This is a devastating time to be planning a large social event with the most important people in your life. You’ve been faced with the toughest decisions. Literal life and death decisions. But we NEED you to know something…

    You are NOT alone. You are not ALONE. 

    YOU ARE NOT ALONE. 

    Not only are there so many couples experiencing this with you, there is also an entire wedding industry mourning for you. 

    Every weekend, they get to help couples across the world celebrate with their loved ones while devoting themselves to their best friend. 

    Now? Now we get to help couples across the world readjust their vision. We get to come up with creative ways to alter their plans if they’re desperate to keep their date. We get to help couples postpone their celebrations to ensure the safety of their favorite people. 

    We GET to do these things. Because we love love and we love you. We do these things because we know that if we can make the world just a bit happier, prettier, more romantic, we know that we’ve made the world THAT much BETTER. 

    You chose your vendors for a reason. You love them too. During these uncertain times, they’re not only worried about you and your wedding, they’re also worried about how they’re going to pay their bills, feed their family, and keep their business sustainable enough to make it through this. Your support will help them so that they CAN help you.

    The reality is that we have to take things day by day. There will be mistakes along the way. It might get messy. But life is messy. And marriage is equally so. 

    This message is just as much for our amazingly strong couples as it is for our wonderfully talented vendors:
    We can’t tell you what to do. But we can help guide you to the best decisions for your situation. We will always be Devoted to you, your family, and our community. We will always be transparent and honest with you. And of course, if there is ever anything we can do to help you during these constantly evolving times, please don’t be afraid to call, text, email, DM -whatever. 

    WE’RE HERE FOR YOU

    Couples: If you’re worried about your wedding and you aren’t sure what to do, we’re offering free consultations and customized game plans made for your specific situation. And if you need more hands-on help while you handle your family and everyday needs, we would be honored to take over any rescheduling or planning for you. Hop over here and let’s see how we can help!

    Vendors: We would love to help you out in any way we can too! If you’re interested in providing your availability, working together on a creative alternative for our clients, or if you would like us to help you promote, please hop over here and let’s chat! 

    We’ve created a Facebook Group for New Jersey couples and vendors so we can support each other. We’d love to welcome you!

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